Get Up to Speed with Speed Dating

Speed dating has truly entered the mainstream, being featured on movies and TV shows, most notably Sex and the City. As more and more people become aware of this service, more people have been curious about it and going to speed dating events. Some do it for fun, some do it to actually find a match.

The main premise of speed dating is having a large number of people go on rotation for the night in an orderly manner, get to know one another and ask questions for 3-8 minutes at a time (depending on the organizer of the speed dating event) and then with a ring of a bell or clink of a glass move on to the next person. They say that it only takes about 3 seconds to form a first impression and determine compatibility with someone. These events also get you to meet more people. Just imagine, in a span of a half hour, you would have met between 3-10 people already. Certainly saves time.

But with that short time span to form opinions and get basic knowledge about another, which of the many questions you want to ask do you actually ask at a speed dating event? Asking the right questions can help you make the most out of this speed dating event. Some speed dating questions we thought you should ask are:

• His job – For a lot of people, their job tells a lot about them. It can give you a peek into what type of person they are and what they’re good at. If they hate their current job, ask them what they would rather be doing. These little snippets of information tell a lot about a person.

• His hobbies – Like a job, hobbies can give you a lot of insight about a person. Hobbies probably could tell you more about the person than his job ever could. These hobbies also bring out their quirks, eccentricities, and interesting bits.

• His current status – As in, “Are you married?” Yes, most of the time the guy will probably say no, but sometimes you’ll get that just got from a relationship or recently divorced guy. From there you can ask in a bit of detail what happened and assess if he’s over that other person (especially if you are interested in this person). You don’t want to be the rebound girl, do you?

• Fun questions – these type of questions would seem mundane but actually reveal something about the person you’re asking them to. Questions such as “What would you spend your money on if you win the lottery?” or “Where do you see yourself in 5 years?” or “If you were stranded on a desert island and could take only one thing with you, what would be that thing?” actually reveal more about the person than most questions.

When You Go On a Blind Date…

Blind dating is where 2 strangers meet each other for the 1st time on a date and it often occurs when someone is set up for it through a friend or a third party. It can also happen when you accidentally e-mail someone found on forwarded e-mail messages, or dialed a wrong number. This is a very random contact which can help you pursue a blind date.

People are often set up on blind dates through a friend or a co-worker who knows both parties and believes they would make a great couple. Perchance like matchmaking.

If you are recommended to go on a blind date by mutual friends who know you well, you might want to consider it. This way you will know that at least your friend trusts the other person. If your friend knows the other people as well as they know you, they might be right about the two of you connecting and getting along well together. It’s totally up to you to make it work though.
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