Real Guys Share their Fun Date Ideas

When it comes to fun date ideas, my mind draws a blank but it’s only because I’m a girl and the responsibility of thinking about where to go on a date has never fallen on my shoulders.  However, that doesn’t mean I can’t ask my guy friends about their date ideas and what they would recommend; maybe even get something that they’ve been planning to use.  I have to say I’m impressed and surprise by what my boys had to say.  Read on, it’s gonna be fun.

Fun Date Idea #1: Restaurant Hopping (Jeff, 25)

“I told my girlfriend that we’re gonna put a little twist to our usual dinner date night.  I thought if one could go bar hopping, why not restaurant hopping?  I searched restaurants in the city the week prior and searched the best of what they had to offer – the best pasta, the best salad, the best steak, the best dessert, the best cocktails, that sort of thing – and printed that out.  On date night I had the list of which food belonged to which restaurant and I gave my girlfriend a menu-type thing from which she could choose the food.  It was like a little adventure as we moved from place to place.  It was also a great way to try restaurants we haven’t been to.  We actually found a few gems along the way.”

Fun Date Idea #2: Disneyland (Matt, 31)

“Let me tell you something:  Grownups think of going to Disneyland* all the time but they always put it off because of work, or that there’s too many people, or whatever reason.  But let me tell you, once you’re there, you’re gonna have fun.  My Disneyland date was something that I’ll never forget and will likely do again.  You go on all the rides and eat as much caramel apples as you want and buy the stuff your parents won’t let you buy when you were there as a kid.  You really do what you want and being in such a place with great memories attached to it and then making new ones is pretty special.”

* By the way, it doesn’t have to be just Disneyland you know.  It can be any amusement park in your area.

Fun Date Idea #3: Think Out of the Box (Henry, 26)

“When I say think outside a box, I mean try something that you haven’t done before but you think might be fun.  In my case it was extreme sports.  I was lucky my date was game enough to try such things.  It was a series of dates, actually, and of course we had lunch or dinner nearby, but the highlight and focus was the activity.  We were both office types, but I soon found out that there was that spirit of adventure within us both, just waiting to be addressed to.  We tried our hands (and feet and all that) at indoor rock climbing, then on another date we went wakeboarding.  I remember on that wakeboarding trip she had a picnic basket prepared and we had lunch on the beach.  We also rode dirt bikes on one of those dates.  It was seriously fun and such a respite from the jobs and lives we lead.”

When Do You Know If He’s Right?

How many dates does it take to make a decision about whether or not you want to pursue a relationship?

I’ve always been curious about this aspect of dating, because very few women have comparable experiences. With some dates, the knowledge is immediate and instinctual. With other dates, months may pass before the endearing nature of his laugh, his smile, his character becomes apparent.

I know that I am a slow warmer. I am wary when I meet a man for the first time. I am dubious of his intentions. I read innuendo where none was intended. It takes me time to let down my guard.

It’s not because I’m naturally a suspicious person. It’s because, in the realm of relationships, I’ve been burned enough by bad apples.
I’m representative of most women my age. By one’s thirties, one has experienced enough bad relationships to associate the dualities of pain and pleasure with a man. One is never sure how much to trust.

But this isn’t natural. Twenty years ago, I loved all boys. I played with them innocently and full-heartedly. Boys were my playmates, my cohorts in crime, and my teammates for games. I could think no evil of boys. Their strange preferences for dirt, body odor, cars, and constrictive underpants were simply idiosyncrasies of fascinating playmates.
As I grew older, I realized that boys could no longer be trusted to play innocently with me. My first two male friends in college were cool–a jazz musician and an Apple Mac gamer–until I realized they “liked” me. I quickly dissolved the friendships. I wanted the innocent companionship and friendship of my childhood male schoolmates. I didn’t realize that maturing would erase that possibility completely.

When do we women lose our innocence with men? And can we ever regain it?

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I’m Going for a Date…Online

With the advances of technology and the increase of people who use computers, online dating has become the new system for organizing a date and can be an excellent way to meet that special someone. There are more singles out there, which have not the time to search for their sweetheart because of the busy lifestyles that occupy their lives. Since most of us are internet savvy, online dating is the more convenient thing to do. Meet hundreds or thousands of new people with a click of a mouse. Surely that perfect someone is out there.

Today, online dating is one of the most popular ways for meeting someone new and to go on a date with. It can be called an online matchmaker where people match make themselves.

There are many online dating websites you can visit and see people who are looking to meet someone new. To get started, post your picture and create a profile on one of them too. This will allow you to tell everything about yourself. This way, people can see if you enjoy the same types of activities they do and you can see if certain a person looks to be like someone you might be interested in.
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